It's
not easy to be on the outside looking in at what used to be your path to
happily ever after. Being unceremoniously dumped without anyone asking your
permission, not only hurts, but it also makes your entire world feel as though
it's spiraling out of control. Your solution to the problem is simple.
You
have decided to get your ex back. You've thrown all your heart, soul, and
energy into the coffers and, yet, you're still not seeing a satisfactory return
on your investment. If anything, the cold shoulder your ex has been giving you
just keeps getting shoulder. What's going wrong in your efforts to win your ex
back? Perhaps, it's one of these common, but fixable, hiccups.
You're Trying Too Hard
You
want results and you feel that this is worth an all-out effort on your part.
Unfortunately, what your ex needs right now is a little bit of emotional
distance from the situation. Sometimes absence really is all it takes to make
the heart grow fonder. You just have to give the absence the opportunity to
happen. Step back. Scale things down completely and let your ex get a taste of
what life is really like without you in it.
Making all the Wrong Moves
At
least, that's what it feels like is going on. Every move you make feels like
it's pushing your ex further and further away. The thing is, it's not the moves
you're making that are the problems. It's the fact that you're making them.
Stand down. Give your ex a chance to breathe a little. Use this time wisely to
come up with a plan of action designed to get your ex's attention in a really
positive way when the timing is right.
Moving a Little Too Fast
This
is quite common. Your heart is telling you to get in there and "Nip it in
the bud!" You don't want to hear any more of this breakup talk. You want
to end it all, right now and get on to the infinitely more enjoyable making up
talk. There's a reason Barney didn't get a loaded gun and that he was only given
ONE bullet. Your heart means well but it doesn't always steer you in the right
direction.
If
none of these things work to get your ex back, then what will? It takes a
well-planned and executed attack to win your ex back after a breakup. You must
spend some serious time planning your strategy and paying attention to the
little details. More importantly, it takes knowing what to do next. A second
chance is just that -- a chance. If you want to make it work, a second time
around then you need a little magic on your side. I can help with that!